Here is another wonderful quote on compulsion and love by Geneen Roth in When Food Is Love.
"Love and compulsion cannot coexist.
"Love is the willingness and ability to be affected by another human being and to allow that effect to make a difference in what you do, say, become.
"Compulsion is the act of wrapping ourselves around an activity, a substance, or a person to survive, to tolerate and numb our experience of the moment.
"Love is a state of connectedness, one that includes vulnerability, surrender, self-valuing, steadiness, and a willingness to face, rather than run from, the worst of ourselves.
"Compulsion is a state of isolation, one that includes self-absorption, invulnerability, low self-esteem, unpredictability, and fear that if we faced our pain, it would destroy us.
"Love expands; compulsion diminishes.
"Compulsion leaves no room for love."
Amazing! This is all I have to say. As the father of a lesbian daughter and close friend if not brother to a gay, married couple (really, I should just be saying father to a daughter and friend to a married couple) I am so happy that their love is now a universal, natural right within our country.
Gay, transgender, straight, lesbian... we are all people and as people we deserve to be treated as humans, with love and acceptance. And the love of all is to be celebrated, not matter its form.
Love is the defining right of all humans.
“The court now holds that same-sex couples may exercise the fundamental right to marry. No longer may this liberty be denied to them,” Justice Anthony Kennedy wrote in the majority opinion. He was joined in the opinion by the court’s liberal Justices Ruth Bader Ginsburg, Stephen G. Breyer, Sonia Sotomayor and Elena Kagan.